this is not a hard question

Here's some advice for the guys in the audience. When a girl that you've been dating for three months asks what you like about her, you should be able to answer the question without too much thought. Because she's probably asking for a very good reason. Maybe she's concerned that your interest in her is more about your appreciation for the drama-free normalcy of this relationship compared to past ones...more about her patience with your complicated life situation....than it is about her as an individual. It probably also doesn't help that you've told both her and one of her best friends that what you really like about her is her "understanding"...i.e. her being understanding of all the complexities in your life.

And while she might be amused by the fact that, after a great deal of thought, the one thing you finally say that you like about her is her sarcasm...while she might be a bit relieved that you appreciate that aspect of her personality...don't be surprised if she's more than a little disappointed that that's all you can say. Because after keeping you around for three months, chances are pretty good that she has a well-detailed list of things she likes about you.

And finally, please don't try to explain your attraction to her as "an unexplainable connection." As sweet and romantic as that sounds, she most likely will hear that as an avoidance of the question...your attempt to dodge what she considers a valid concern.

Or am I being unfair? Is it unreasonable to ask a guy, "What do you like about me?" and expect him to answer easily?

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