Tuesday, September 02, 2014

lessons from august

Oh, August. What a month you were! I learned...

...that my tendencies toward planning, organization and detail are being put to exceptionally good use in my professional role. (Also, I'm reminded that these are not skills everyone has in their arsenal.) The confidence from these realizations and recent experiences has brought me some useful comfort as I shift my focus to the next big projects ahead.

...how useful my new smart phone is. I still am not 100% comfortable using it, nor am I using it to its full potential. But in various moments throughout the month, I was super-glad I had it.

...new rhythms and routines as Wildcat Guy settled into his new job and we figured out new ways to make things happen around the house. And truthfully? I also have treasured the opportunity to have large chunks of weekend time to do with as I like.

...that, sometimes, there is nothing more satisfying than a day spent working with photos and catching up on episodes of a favorite tv show.

...to cut myself some slack. Not in the theoretical, "suuuurrre, of course I'm being kind to myself" kind of way, but in the real, genuine, "I am human and flawed and working at a pace in life that makes sense to me" kind of way. I want and need to maintain this.

(inspired by Emily Freeman's "What We Learned" invitation)

Monday, September 01, 2014

this week was good because of...

...the opportunity to take Friday afternoon off and hang out with Wildcat Guy for a condensed version of weekend fun. (He had to work Saturday, Sunday and today.)

...a partner who enjoys going out and doing things.

...our membership at the Detroit Zoo. Purchasing that on our first trip to the Zoo back in May was such a good (and wi$e) decision.

...delightful, mild weather that was unseasonable, yes, but still great.

...these lovely cards from Michael's that perfectly describe the feel of my three-day weekend.

...travel mail from friends and family.

...a tasty lunch at Panera, complete with some good magazine reading.

...feeling like my leadership development skills are really finding their niche as the semester gets underway - and being grateful for the emotional assurance that brings.

...the inbox of my work email account being under 20 for the first time in over a month.

...a relatively successful attempt at wearing a summer scarf (and faking an infinity scarf from a traditional, rectangular one, at that).

...working on the balance between vanity, simplicity and sustainability in my personal appearance.

...the fantastic combination of time spent scrapbooking while watching college football.

...a late-morning brunch (including delicious cinnamon biscuits) for us to enjoy before my love went to work this afternoon.

...the rhythms of using my "alone time" (i.e. the evenings and weekend days when Wildcat Guy works) well; and adjusting pretty successfully to our shift in household responsibilities.

What made your week good?

Thursday, August 28, 2014

the light i want to shine

"Let everything you say be good and helpful,
so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them."
~ Ephesians 4:29

A few months ago, I read that verse in my nightly devotional. As these things often do, it came at just the right time - a time when I was starting to wrestle with the question I imagine most bloggers stumble upon at some point.

Do I want to continue writing in this space?

As the summer continued, so, too, did that line of thinking. I spent a lot of time trying to figure out what this space was, and wondering how this creative outlet fits - into my life, and into the greater spectrum of blogging. In fact, a question posed in that same devotional was perfectly phrased:

"Do you have anything to say that has not already been said?"

All of this coincided with some major technical difficulties. My camera - which has always been testy in the process of transferring photos from the memory card to the hard drive - became downright uncooperative. This made even my regular "this week is good" posts (the only ones I'd been able to maintain any consistency in writing) a frustrating endeavor.

Finally, what I realized was that I had fallen prey to the simple burden of comparison. In many ways, my answer to, "do you have anything to say that has not already been said?" is no. Not really. There are women (and probably men, too) who write beautifully and genuinely about the creative life...about faith...about culinary experiences...about the topics I often choose...in ways I have neither the motivation nor the skill to do.

Then, a few days ago, there emerged a soft voice - slowly, quietly reminding me of the mantra my wonderful high school writing teachers used to emphasize so often. "Write what you know," the voice said. "Write about your life. Only you can tell that story." It was the mental nudge I needed - to worry less about what I felt I "should" write, and focus more on just writing. 

I'm not sure what that will look like, nor do I know how often I'll be writing. At the very least, it will be once a week, as I have come to treasure the weekly reflection on all things good in my corner of the world and am looking forward to resuming those now that my technical difficulties have been resolved. Beyond that, I will be holding this prayer (from that same devotional) in my heart as a guide:

"Lord...help me to keep silent at times when 
I am tempted to talk just for the sake of talking."

My hope is that this space can, once again, be a personally-satisfying collection of stories - big or small - that reflect even a little bit of light from my corner into yours.

(quotes from The One Year Devotions for Women: Becoming a Woman at Peace, by Ann Spangler)

Sunday, July 20, 2014

this week was good because of...

...an opportunity to see interesting bits and pieces of Tampa.

...not feeling like things piled up too intensely while I was out of the office for most of the week.

...flying on Southwest Airlines. Oh, how I'd missed that! Even at 6:30 in the morning, it was a much better experience than my first trip out of DTW.

...the joy of coming home to my love.

...an amazing professional development experience that I am going to benefit from immensely.

...the emotional courage to spend time at the networking socials each evening.

...great views from our meeting room - be it thunderstorms rolling in or sunny skies above the bay near campus.

...time on my last morning in Tampa to do a photo walk around campus.

...the fun history lesson on a walking tour of Ybor City (and an American perspective on certain portions of Cuban history, as well).

...the summer issue of a favorite magazine.

...spending an afternoon watching the final season of a show I was late to appreciate.

...a lovely bluegrass-y rendition of a favorite worship song at church this morning.

...the delightful bouquet of flowers waiting for me when I got home.

...letting myself have a low-key weekend, knowing life is about to get busy.

What made your week good?

Friday, July 18, 2014

that one meal in tampa

I have to admit - I wasn't expecting to eat anything amazing on this week's trip. My travel itinerary required that a few meals would be at the airport; and while in Tampa, all but one of my meals was going to be at the university's dining hall.

That one meal, though. After arriving on campus, I joined two other conference participants for lunch at a restaurant down the street, recommended by one of the conference coordinators. From the moment we arrived, I had a good feeling about this meal.

Sadly, this one photo does not do this sandwich justice. Rookie move, not turning the sandwich to show the contents (because there was definitely more than lettuce on it!). Grilled mahi, creamy avocado and garlic aioli, on bread that was the perfect balance of crunchy and chewy...mmm. The fish was meaty and satisfying, the flavors blended well, and I was so happy I picked this.

Truthfully, it's a restaurant I will seek out any time I'm back in Tampa. The service was great, the environment was relaxing and fun...just a good choice. (There's also an extensive menu of teas that I would like to work my way through!)

And I do feel it necessary to mention the strawberry cheesecake that the campus dining services had at our closing dinner on Wednesday. I wouldn't say that cheesecake is the best choice to serve in Tampa in July...but even a little soft, it was yummy.

So maybe not the culinary treat that other trips may have been...but a couple of moments of delicious, nonetheless.

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

"let's start at the very beginning..."

After mentioning last week that I wanted to share some of the stories from our wedding planning, I figured that picking the location made a logical first story. Or, as the song in the title would continue, that it would be "a very good place to start" - even if it's a rather long story to tell.

While I would like to say that choosing our wedding venue was an easy decision, the truth is that it took some time. In fact, knowing we had more than two and a half years from the date of our engagement to the approximate date of our wedding probably created more of an obstacle than a help in this decision - we had time to meander through the possibilities.

Our decision was made even more difficult by the fact that we didn't have a clear vision of what kind of wedding we wanted. So when we were looking at venues, we weren't thinking, "could this venue be a suitable location for the wedding we have in mind?" Instead, we were thinking, "what would a wedding at this venue - which we find interesting - be like, and is that the kind of wedding we want?"

For the record, I do not recommend this approach.

The first venue we considered was an absolutely beautiful castle-esque estate in the hills of western North Carolina. I had seen this location in a wedding magazine, and I was enchanted by it. (There were also jokes about having fun storming the castle.)

But seriously - this room. The pictures of a ceremony set-up in this room were delightful; and when we took a tour in June 2011, we liked it. A lot. There was just such a unique feel to it, and the various spaces offered so many different possibilities, and the amenities were pretty awesome. My creative brain was in overdrive.

Unfortunately, this beautiful property was a bit remote for our tastes, with the nearest town relatively small and any larger, more appealing towns just far enough away that travel logistics for our guests would be awkward. The venue was also at the very upper end of our preliminary budget; and to take advantage of some of the cooler amenities would have pushed us over our budget altogether. So sadly, after some thoughtful considerations, we had to move on.

At the same time we were considering the delightful castle, we visited a well-known resort at the beach in my college town with the idea to have an outdoor ceremony and an indoor reception. Setting aside the fact that October (our desired month) is still technically hurricane season, we just didn't like it. Initially, I chalked that up to the fact that we'd just seen the other venue. But the more we discussed it, the more we realized that, even if a beach wedding was what we wanted (and we weren't sure we did), using a hotel ballroom - for the reception and, possibly, the ceremony - was just not for us.

This was progress, though. It helped us understand that we wanted a location with more atmosphere than a traditional ballroom or event space had to offer.

So later that summer, browsing through wedding websites, I came across a number of listings for venues in the Gatlinburg/Pigeon Forge area. Considering that Wildcat Guy and I are both outdoors-y people, and how beautiful that area would be in autumn, this seemed like an idea with potential.

A lot of research later, we decided to visit this farm near Pigeon Forge. It had enough space for our anticipated guest list of 100-125; the venue was a mix of indoor and outdoor spaces; and the package options were broad enough that we'd have some discretion in the decision-making. (Who knew that some venues would actually prohibit picture-taking by anyone other than their venue photographer?!)

Even on a drizzly September afternoon, it was lovely. The barn would be a good space for the reception (and, if needed, an indoor ceremony); and the forest made a gorgeous backdrop for this simple outdoor gathering space. The location was pretty great, too. It was relatively easy to get there, and the Gatlinburg/Pigeon Forge area sounded like a destination people would enjoy.

Yes. This worked. In fact, it did more than work - it resonated with us. We had not only found our venue, we had found our concept.

Then, a few months later, we had arrangements for a second visit. We had requested a cake testing, to decide on flavors, and my mom was going with us so she could see the property and, likely, place the deposit...only to have the manager tell me (when I called to confirm a couple of days before we went) that she had been too busy to set the tasting up - but that if we still wanted to tour the property, that would be fine. Really? And she didn't think that was important to let us know before we made a three-hour trip? Instead, we said we'd wait until after the winter holidays to reschedule a visit and cake-testing.

Except that, after the holidays, we decided the whole experience felt off. Perhaps this would be the only challenge - but perhaps not. So we decided to keep looking...

...and found this. We had spent so much energy looking out of state that we had overlooked the lovely options less than an hour away - like this winery with a restored barn beautifully-adorned in white lights...

...and a sweet little gazebo to provide a backdrop for our vows. It was awesome, and within days of our first visit in March 2012, we had all kinds of ideas for making this space ours.

That summer, we visited again with my mom and dad, to scope out the site and taste some wine; and we were ready. Ready to commit. Ready to begin planning. Ready to have our wedding here.

And then. Oh, and then. Who knew it would be so hard to receive a contract from a wedding venue in order for us to give them a deposit (and, ultimately, a lot more money on top of that)?! I spent literally months calling and emailing, asking for a contract to reserve our desired date - always to be told, "yes, we'll get that to you" or, "I'll have our events manager call you." In the meantime, that window of time until our wedding date was slowly growing smaller and smaller; and if you do like we did, waiting to confirm other vendors until the venue is set, you can possibly understand how stressful this previously-meandering process became.

Finally, we realized that, if we kept waiting around for a contract, our wedding date would come and go uncelebrated. Liking the idea of a winery, and having realized that, with time ticking away, something nearby would be a better choice, we did some more research on wineries in the area and found Equus Run. Our first visit was in February 2013 (hence, the wall panels), but it was easy to get a sense of what it would look like in October without them.

We could also envision what a wedding ceremony might look like on this lawn.

Thankfully, even though the path to discovering Equus Run was bumpy and curvy, our experience with the staff there was wonderful. As soon as we agreed that this was our spot, we made the reservation, received a contract and put down a deposit in no time at all. At last - simplicity.

In August, we visited again to do a wine-tasting and finalize our layouts for the barn and lawn. Wildcat Guy was kind enough to be my model for one of the planning photos, of which we took a lot, knowing that my mom and dad wouldn't be able to visit, but wanting them (especially Mom) to have a good idea of what spaces we had and how we intended to use them.

It was also nice to see what the venue would look like in the sunshine (and hope for more of the same in October).

(by Kyle Matthew Photography)

(by Kyle Matthew Photography) 

In fact, the weather ended up being so pretty on our wedding day that the inside of the barn - which we had anticipated being part of the seating and socializing - became, instead, where people went to get food and beverages before settling in on the patio during the reception.

(by Kyle Matthew Photography) 

And the lawn we picked out? It was exactly the right spot for our ceremony. Sure, we could have probably decorated it a bit more, but given the time we had and the simple approach we were aiming for (more on that to come), I was pleased with how it turned out.

(by Kyle Matthew Photography)

Especially this part. When I think back to that first time we saw the lawn - on a grey February afternoon - even though I could envision our ceremony there, I had no idea how magical this moment would actually be. But I am so glad that this is where the moment - our first as a married couple - ended up happening. It was just what I wanted...and more.

Sunday, July 13, 2014

this week was good because of...

...the pink lemonade cupcakes I took to work. (Yum!)

...my sister-in-law's surgery going well on Thursday.

...motivation to get as much done as I can in as little time as possible (thanks to the additional four days I will be out of the office this coming week for a conference).

...remembering to breathe in moments of frustration.

...time on my own while Wildcat Guy went to see his family.

...a small furniture change that makes a big different in this space's functionality.

...being all caught up on "So You Think You Can Dance."

...this beautiful song featured in one of the pieces.

...the "Wild Summer Nights" picnic concert on Wednesday evening with Vintage Blonde and her family.

...watching fireflies rise from the window of my living room.

...this lovely quote that was a perfectly-timed reminder to focus more on doing my best work and less on worrying unnecessarily.

...complete amusement from the nature of GoogleDocs. (It's like magic!)

What made your week good?